I never really thought much about whether the conversations I held every day were meaningful or not. Until recently I had not stepped back and focused on what I was talking about daily. To grow in your relationships, you must have those meaningful conversations, really know the person you are talking to about your desires, needs, hopes, fears and dreams. When I thought of all the people that I care about and talk to every day, I’m not sure I can say that I know them at that level. Life is too short for dull and boring conversations; Meet those you admire at a deeper level.

1. Stop gossiping

As the old saying goes, if you have nothing good to say about anyone, say nothing at all. Unfortunately, when I think about past conversations I’ve had with my friends, I can think of some that were focused on gossip. Gossip does not make you feel good, in any case, it makes you feel worse about yourself. Leave a bitter taste in your mouth. Talk less about others and more about ideas, events, dreams, etc. It’s time to STOP talking about someone else, focus on others and THINK before you speak.

T – Is it true?
H – Is it useful?
I – is it inspiring?
N – Is it necessary?
K – Is he kind?

2. leave the phone

We live in a world where our lives are centered on social networks. People feel more comfortable sending text messages to their friends and loved ones than talking to them in person. This baffles me that this has come to this. How can you have a meaningful conversation with someone when you’re busy looking at the Instagram photo of Lucy’s selfie? For most, it is a reflex to pick up the phone every few minutes, believe me, nothing has happened that has changed the life in the last two minutes on social networks. Be present in your conversations. Put the phone in your purse or pocket and do not check it until the conversation is over. This is a challenge I know, but you will not regret it.

3. Look them in the eyes.

We have all done it; A stranger walked by and looked down instead of looking at them. But we are not only doing this to people we do not know, but to those we do. I am guilty of this and it is something that I am working to change. When I tell someone my feelings for them, it is easier to look at anything other than their eyes. But your message will not mean so much unless you are really connected to that person. Look people in the eye and do not be afraid or intimidated to do so. You can know a lot about someone just by looking at them. Research shows that people are more likely to tell you the truth if you look them in the eyes. Why? Because it makes them feel that you are trustworthy.

4. tell the truth

Say what you want to say and say what you say. Humans are deceptive beings. Many times it is much easier to lie than to tell the truth. It is much easier to agree with someone who does not agree with the fear that you can start a discussion. Let me tell you something, have good opinions that your friends or loved ones are GOOD! This is an ideal base to start a conversation. A healthy joke opens your mind to other points of view and helps you accept the different opinion. You have more respect for each other, information and knowledge can be shared between the two without any judgment being issued. It feels good to share your passion with others and get their sincere and positive comments. This will help you grow as a person and also in your relationships.